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30 Random Facts About Yours Truly

Posted on August 19, 2018August 30, 2018 by lavishcafe

Happy end of Summer, Lavish Ones!

I decided to write a little bit more about me. Here are 30 random facts about yours truly. Hopefully this will help you to get to know the lavish loving woman behind the keyboard.

*Prior to 3 years ago, I did not have any active forms of social media.

*I still refuse to indulge in FaceBook.

*I am left handed.

*My height is 5″2

*I do not like to walk on my bare feet (slippers or socks are a must).

*I love the smell of rubbing alcohol.

*Black is my favorite color; I own 57 pairs of black pants and 17 black turtlenecks (Uhhhhh, Me).

*I have a terrible sweet tooth (anything sugary…I am down for it), and I am a really good cook.

*My favorite flower is the Tulip.

*I am the oldest of three and the first grandchild.

*My sister, brother, and I had our children in the order we were born. Me (first), sister (next), brother (last).

* We each have one daughter who were born 8 years apart, and each of their names begin with “E”.

*I am completely OBSESSED with my dog; he is also my selfie partner!

*My mother is a master hair stylist; I can barely comb my hair.

*Korean is my favorite cuisine (Kimchi, anyone?).

*I drink coffee in the mornings, tea at night and indulge in soda maybe four times a year.

*I wanted to be a Solid Gold dancer when I was younger (some of you will have to look that one up).

*My family has a long line of military service; however, I am the first female to join (YAY to Girl Power).

*Two of best friends both have the same first name.

*Puerto Rico is my favorite vacation spot!

*Imagine me as a cheerleader and on the dance team in high school because I was.

*I can eat an entire Family Bag of Skinny Pop in one sitting and eat cough drops like they are candy (Honey Lemon please).

*Janet Jackson is my Birthday Twin.

*Besides being a mother and wife, being a teacher is my life’s work and my complete joy.

*I hold a Bachelors, two Masters, and an Educational Specialist degree (YAY.. once again to Girl Power).

*To say that I am an Investigation Discovery Addict is an UNDERSTATEMENT.

*I make my bed every morning.

*Singing is something that I CAN NOT do (husband regularly reminds me).

*I am totally high maintenance ( Yes! I said it.)

*I am an unashamed unapologetic woman of faith! I owe all that I am and all that I have to GOD!

Do Not Forget About Your White Pumps.

Posted on July 23, 2018July 24, 2018 by lavishcafe

Happy Summer Lavish Ones!

I am sure that you have pulled out all of your lovely bright white maxi dresses, tank tops, halters, shorts, and accessories. Well, while you are getting all of your beautiful whites out, do not forget about your white pumps.

I never gave much thought to anything white below the ankle (excluding a great white sneaker). I often equated white pumps to my high school graduation. We were mandated to wear them or we would NOT prance across that stage. I am from Texas, so we do everything big or go home (figuratively and literally).

I am not sure when my feet began to tingle at the thought of white pumps. Was it a gradual white out or was it an explosion of white stars? Whatever way this thought transpired, the end result is F A B U L O U S. As I looked for style inspiration, I noticed that white pump transcends across seasons, every dress length and all occasions. These fashionable pumps can be worn with the most luxurious of trouser and the most distressed jean in the world. Some are even hailing the white pump as the new neutral. I am not quite ready to make that statement; however, I am willing to test it.

So the next time you bring out your easy breezy summer whites, do not forget to make your feet smile by encasing them in a bright white pump.

Until the next time…

Stay Lavish!

Provided below are links to my to other favorites and how to style white pumps:

http://us.christianlouboutin.com/us_en/shop/women/so-kate-464663.html — Christian Louboutin So Kate 120mm

The Cut

Who What Wear

InStyle (old article, but it is a goodie)

The Fanny Pack is Back

Posted on June 28, 2018June 28, 2018 by lavishcafe

Hello Lavish Ones!!

The 1980s fanny pack is BACK and it is back with a fashionable vengeance! This fashion restatement is also known as: belt bag, waist belt, or bum bag. Whatever term you choose to use, the reemergence of this accessory is feverish. As of late, every magazine had a beautiful woman gliding across it’s pages looking fabulous with a pouch hanging off her waist or strapped across her chest.

These pouches were continually calling my name. The stress! The pressure! Well, it goes without saying; I succumbed to the pressure. What was one to do! I even thought about resurrecting one that my uber stylish mama owned in the 80s, but I did not have the energy to search the nearby landfills. So I bit the bullet, logged on to my favorite pre-loved luxury site, and entered the belt bag world.

Here is a tad bit of history on the fanny pack. The fanny pack is a small fabric pouch usually secured with a zipper and worn by use of a strap around the hips or waist. This peculiar little accessory dates back to the 15th century France. However, it was not until the 1980s that Americans embraced the fanny pack in all of its glory. The American and British names derive from the fact that they were often worn with the pouch above the buttocks, for which “fanny” and “bum” are the slang terms in each country, respectively. The British consider the word “fanny” to be vulgar, hence the name “bum” bag versus “fanny” pack.

Today, these practical bags are worn slung to the side on a hip, clipped at the back, fastened across the body or worn directly in the middle of the waist. Everyone from busy mommies on the go to the fashionably elite can be seen strutting their stuff in this nifty trend. If you really ponder on it, it does make perfect sense to clip one on. Fanny packs give you the freedom to be hands free while having all of your essentials nearby.

So long story short ladies…get on this fanny pack, belt bag, waist belt, bum bag bandwagon before the 1980s calls and asks for their favorite accessory back!

Until the Next Time…

Stay Lavish

Links Provided Below:

DRESS ~ Target // SHOES ~ Just Fab // GUCCI WAIST BAG ~ Tradesy

Louis Vuitton Monogram Canvas Pochette Florentine Belt Bag

Chanel Crumpled Lambskin & Gold-Tone Metal Waist Bag

Chanel Waist Pack Fanny Pack Materasse Lambskin

*Articles on Stylish Ways to Wear Your Fanny Pack*

Harper’s Bazaar

The Cut

WhoWhatWear

*Designer Options (NEW)*

*Designer Options (PRE-LOVED)*

The Bag Lady

Tradesy

*Budget Friendly Options*

I Am Awake and Desire Some Cake!

Posted on May 30, 2018May 31, 2018 by lavishcafe

It is my BIRTHDAY month and everyone who knows me knows that I love my birthday! I literally become intoxicated with all the birthday wishes, gifts, dinners/lunches, but most importantly the birthday cake. I love me some birthday cake! Any flavor will do, as long as, it is baked in my honor (Ha…sometimes I amuse myself!).

The reason I love my birthday is not for narcissistic reasons (insert husband’s, daughter’s, AND dog’s side eye). The reason I adore the day on which I was born is that I am alive to celebrate it; however, I don’t just mean (alive) in the physical sense. I am alive spiritually, relationally, emotionally, politically, mentally, financially… (I could go on all day).

This aliveness is what (I suppose) the younger generation refers to being WOKE. If that is the case, then I am “full pot of coffee woke”. And because of this “wokeness”, I celebrate the fact that I have been graced with one more year. I have another year to right my wrongs, perfect my rights, access my surroundings, be thankful for the doors that closed and karate kick other doors wide open.

Being “woke” is absolutely necessary for growth and all of us need (and should desire) growth. Now, let me tell you…being “awake” is not always fun nor is it easy. Sometimes, it is downright brutal. However, I would rather be a woman who is alive and awake than a sleeping woman who is out of touch with every facet of life (except my bed).

In this next year, I look forward to all of the great things that are in store and all of the reasons I will have to celebrate. Also while I am “awake” and aware, I pledge to find peace and gloriousness in EVERY. SINGLE. THING…including this 1,000 calorie birthday cake that I am about to stuff into my face.

Until the next time…

Stay Lavish!

Dress (New)~Vici // Shoes~God //Bracelet (Gifted)~J.Crew

Seasons of Change

Posted on September 9, 2017September 19, 2017 by lavishcafe

Hello Lavish Land!

Summer is ending and Fall is quickly approaching. Some (including me) are excitedly awaiting this change of season while others dreading are less sunny days and more layers of clothing.

As I prepare my closet for the impending weather change…adding cardigans and scarfs while subtracting sleeveless maxis and short sexy shorts…you know, tedious stuff like that… I began to think how life is just like my ever exploding closet (Sorry Husband). Adjusting myself to meet the needs of the season.

Just as passing months bring the change of seasons, life brings about seasons of change. There are times when life throws so many lemons that you don’t have the energy to make lemonade. Everyone says “enter lemons…exit that sweet tarty drink”. What if you don’t like lemonade?! What is supposed to happen then?!

Then there are times when life is so fabulous that everything you touch turns to gold, sterling silver, or rose gold (whichever you prefer). So good that, when you enter a room time stops, the winds begin to blow, and your theme music starts. These are are glorious times indeed!

Well, with both of these times have one thing in common. They will change.

There are a few things that keep me balanced in times of famine and time of feast. First, exercising my faith. Faith.. a word so small; however, the meaning is so huge. It helps me to stay grounded, humble, grateful, and prepared. Secondly, taking time for me. Taking time to be quiet and wait on clarity for my next move or a voice that says…stay where you are. Finally, have a good laugh with family, students, or girl tribe. Laughter will always change the atmosphere!

Just as you must prepare for the changing of the natural seasons….you must do the same for the changes in your life. How you do that is totally up to you. Just do it!

Also, May I add that including a great Moscato, an awesome bag, or fabulous new ensemble always make a gloomy day bright and a bright day shine even brighter. Ooooooh, I just imagined all three at the same time…my soul can not contain the joy!!

Let’s toast to all seasons of the life and a magnificent fall warbrobe! Clink…Clink…Clink

Until the next time…Stay Lavish

Hash It Out or Hush It Up?

Posted on August 29, 2017September 1, 2017 by lavishcafe

Hello Lavish Ones!!!!

I am having a debate with one of my friend girls (that is my grandmother’s word for…girlfriends). We are discussing whether it is better to “hash it out” after an argument/disagreement or to completely hush. Friend Girl says “talking it out” is the only way to truly solve an issue plus it limits the possibility of creating a larger problem. She thinks hashing it out right then and there with no time lapse is the answer!

Of course, this would be too easy if I agreed with her. There would be nothing to write about!

My stance is to go COMPLETELY mute (Insert Husband’s eye roll). But that is the nature of my personality…I am an internalizer. I believe one should hush until ALL hearts and minds are clear (Southern church talk y’all…Hallelujah). Then the pathway to clarity can begin. Cooler heads always prevail.

Amazingly, Friend Girl and I both agree one thing. The amount of passion used to resolve a conflict is dependent on how much you value the relationship and visa versa. The desired result should not just to be proven right or seen in a positive light.

Sadly, some relationships add no value to your world and it is best to say your peace…with silence. Let them see your lavishly detailed back as you move forward.

How you choose to settle uncomfortable situations with another is totally up to you. But…ALWAYS….do it with respect.

Are you a hasher or a husher? Whatever you are…ALWAYS REMAIN LAVISH!

Shirt~Zara HERE // Shorts ~(OLD) White House Black Market SIMILAR HERE or HERE // Shoes~ Zara HERE

I Choose Joy

Posted on April 1, 2017April 4, 2017 by lavishcafe

Greetings Lavish Ones!

What do you do when life is giving you a supermarket cart full of lemons? Many say make lemonade; I say to choose JOY.

I became a Girl Boss this year! My new position is demanding (at times), challenging (sometimes), rewarding (all the time). I go full throttle most of the day and some of those days extremely long. Is a 14 hour work day long? Then yes…some days are long! The mere fact that my dream came true is wonderfully and amazingly crazy to me!

But something strange happened as I was enjoying my new girl boss status. I became overwhelmingly exhausted, irritable and a down right curmudgeon. I found myself rolling out of bed instead springing out to get to the job that I adored and prayed so hard for. It even became a chore to take photos (I live to stick my face in a picture) or to even craft a blog post.

What in the world was going on?! I was not me. I was not laughing. I was NOT lavish. Houston, we have a problem!!

I had to admit.. I received my blessing with open arms but I was reluctant to embrace the new burdens that came with it. I have heard it said, “You can not receive a blessing and not be prepared for the burdens.” Let me give an example that was shared with me. Many are fortunate enough to give birth to a bundle of love; however, with that bundle comes sleepless nights, change in schedule, less time and money for a mani/pedi or to purchase the latest bag. Some get so bogged down by the responsibilities; they are unable to find joy in the baby. I am determined to enjoy my baby! Ummmm…not literally. Come off the roof, Husband!

I am committed to choose JOY in all things this Lavish life brings me. And I am quite confident you will too. Besides, being angry results in premature wrinkles. Now, that is a burden!

Until the next time, have a great week and remain LAVISH!

Sweatshirt~(OLD) Banana Republic SIMILAR HERE || Denim Shirt ~ H&M GET HERE || Jeans ~ New York & Co HERE

Shoes ~ (OLD) Sam Edelman SIMILAR HERE || Handbag ~Co-Lab HERE

Instantly Beautiful

Posted on February 5, 2017February 5, 2017 by lavishcafe

Hola, mujeres hermosas (In other words….Hello Beautiful women). As part of my “goal getter” mentality, I am learning Spanish, BUT it is going very very slow (Ugghhhhh…Me)

One day I was having a chat with my friend, C. During the conversation, she asked me an amazingly prolific question. “What is the one thing you can put on that will INSTANTLY make you feel beautiful?” Huh…Crickets. Well this caused me to really think. I am so so much with an enormous beauty routine, and multiple rituals (so I have been told). How in the world could I choose ONE thing? But my one instant beauty came to mind…a turtleneck (do not judge… Ha Ha Ha). When I slip that contraption on, I immediately feel like a classic beauty. I love a turtleneck in ALL forms. Give me long sleeve, sleeveless, 3/4 length sleeve, ribbed, cotton, racerback, chunky, no matter the form, just give them all to me. However, I really love black, but I will take whatever I can get my hands on (LOL).

Once again, this was a question was too delicious to keep to myself. So you know I surveyed my gorgeous girls (hey y’all). Here is what some of them said.

C – Banana Republic Classic Perfume

La’Missy – A good fitted jacket (Indeed)

Wife – Serious pair of fitted jeans

Mom – Earrings

Bestie – A new pair of zapatos (shoes) I am bilingual…remember

Old E – Lip Gloss

Kat – A fresh weave (Amen)

When I asked the question and received the answers, I was simply amazed because not one of these lavish ladies said the same thing. Seriously! I loved getting more insight into the women that I adore. Isn’t it mind boggling how many different things we consider beautiful and the great thing is that we are all correct. I have come to the conclusion through my many years of living and conversing with the wonderful women who surround me is the most beautiful thing is being YOURSELF.

Lavishites, put on your turtleneck, spray on your perfume, slip on those new shoes, flip that fresh weave…whatever makes you feel beautifully confident and step high! Own your uniqueness and you will never go wrong.

Before I depart, everyone say a collective “thank you” to C for starting this great conversation. She is one smart cookie!

Hasta la proxima vez…ALWAYS remain lavish

Hey…She is My Wife

Posted on January 12, 2017February 1, 2017 by lavishcafe

HAPPY 2017 to ALL! Well, Christmas is gone and the new year has rolled in. Most of us are back in the full swing of work and our days off seem like a faint memory (all my fellow educators say a collective tired sigh). I cannot believe I am saying this but I’m excited to get back to work. There are a number of reasons for my excitement; a major reason is my work wife. Huh…work wife..yep! You read correctly. My work spouse. Every working gal needs one!

Let’s first talk about my loved one. She is beautiful (to the eye and in the soul). Hilarious does not do her comical skills any justice. My wife is smart, articulate, and a lightening fast thinker. She is the total package (wait…we’re twins…bahahaha)! The best part…I get to see her every work day. Side bar…Hey wife, when are going to Sephora my concealer supply is getting low?! Back to subject at hand (You know, I often digress).

My work wife is all that I previously described, but more importantly, I trust her and she trusts me. I know she has my best interest at heart, and I am confident that she will do anything within her power to protect me from harm. We depend on each for a number of things: laughs, snacks, pain reliever…all the essential items for a successful work day. Just as in a traditional marriage, we have inside jokes and code words. And when an insanely eventful occurrence happens at work, she is the first person I seek out…an added plus is that I don’t have to build the backstory of the event. She works there, so she knows all about it! My Mrs. can be (and has been) brutally honest with me. We all need that sometimes…I know I do!

To show my appreciation for who she is, I wore her favorite color in these photos (you’re welcome, girl).

I am not sure of the exact moment that I knew she was the “work” one for me. I suppose it was the trials, celebrations, and stress of having a job. Just as in any relationship, we began with light witty conversation, then we moved to asking, respecting, and caring about each other’s thoughts and opinions, finally we took our “workmance” outside the confines of our career. Now, our colleagues know we are as thick as thieves and down like four flat tires. It is so comforting to know someone has your back and is unafraid to demonstrate it. There is no denying…she is the one for me!

Lavish lovelies, you may have a work wife and not even realize it. If you do not; find one quickly. This girl could be the key to your sanity and salvation. A happy marriage makes for a wonderful home life, so why wouldn’t same thing apply your work life?! Now, pardon me as prepare to moan, groan, and complain about work to the one who makes it so much better.

Have a great week and as always remain Lavish!

Blouse~ H&M GET HERE || Jeans ~ (OLD) Whitehouse Blackmarket SIMILAR HERE or HERE || Shoes ~ (OLD)

Clutch (OLD) Louis Vuitton GET HERE or HERE

What Would You Say?

Posted on December 20, 2016December 24, 2016 by lavishcafe

Happy Holidays Lavish Lovelies! My hope is that you are enjoying the impending arrival of good ole Saint Nicholas. I certainly am because I am soaking up every minute of my glorious time off (If you are a teacher…HOLLA!). Instead of totally indulging in this season of eggnog and insane hustle and bustle, I have decided to take some time to get organized for the next year.

While cleaning drawers that have been severely neglected, I came across some photographs that I had not seen in a long while. Oh, the memories! I filtered through pictures of my baby when she was a baby, pictures of me and husband when we were young fine thangs (that is the Southern way of saying “things”), and multiple pictures of great holidays past. I even uncovered a couple pictures of a very young me. A me who had yet to discover her lavish. A me whose eyes held tons of wonder and hope for the years to come. As I gazed at the chubby little girl in the photo, a question that I had previously heard came to mind: “What would my adult self say to my little girl self?” To keep it short and sweet…the answer was just five words.

Well, this question was too prolific (horn tooting..ha! ha!) to keep between me and myself. Soooo, I sent it to some members of my band of beauties (thank you…love you) and here are their responses:

Me: Stop fretting, you are favored

Buga: God will never fail you

Mom: Stay on your diet, Boo ( only, my mother! remember, she is wild flower child)

Sweet Spirit: You are more than enough

Sister: My existence is enough justification (she is DEEP)

Bestie: Always keep candy on hand ( she DOES love a good candy apple)

C: Beloved! It’s gonna be something

Mrs. Wells: Put God first…do YOU

Wife: Stay fine your haters watchin (another wild child!)

Lavishites, I ask the same question to you. “What would my adult self say to my little girl self?” Although I can not hear all of your answers, I am quite sure whatever the answer may be, it will awaken your awareness of how far you have come and how lavish the rest of your days shall be!

Happy Holidays!

Dress ~ Nalu Boutique GET HERE || Shoes (OLD) SIMILAR HERE || Bracelet (OLD) GET HERE