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Hello Lavish Land!

Summer is ending and Fall is quickly approaching. Some (including me) are excitedly awaiting this change of season while others dreading are less sunny days and more layers of clothing.

As I prepare my closet for the impending weather change…adding cardigans and scarfs while subtracting sleeveless maxis and short sexy shorts…you know, tedious stuff like that… I began to think how life is just like my ever exploding closet (Sorry Husband). Adjusting myself to meet the needs of the season.

Just as passing months bring the change of seasons, life brings about seasons of change. There are times when life throws so many lemons that you don’t have the energy to make lemonade. Everyone says “enter lemons…exit that sweet tarty drink”. What if you don’t like lemonade?! What is supposed to happen then?!

Then there are times when life is so fabulous that everything you touch turns to gold, sterling silver, or rose gold (whichever you prefer). So good that, when you enter a room time stops, the winds begin to blow, and your theme music starts. These are are glorious times indeed!

Well, with both of these times have one thing in common. They will change.

There are a few things that keep me balanced in times of famine and time of feast. First, exercising my faith. Faith.. a word so small; however, the meaning is so huge. It helps me to stay grounded, humble, grateful, and prepared. Secondly, taking time for me. Taking time to be quiet and wait on clarity for my next move or a voice that says…stay where you are. Finally, have a good laugh with family, students, or girl tribe. Laughter will always change the atmosphere!

Just as you must prepare for the changing of the natural seasons….you must do the same for the changes in your life. How you do that is totally up to you. Just do it!

Also, May I add that including a great Moscato, an awesome bag, or fabulous new ensemble always make a gloomy day bright and a bright day shine even brighter. Ooooooh, I just imagined all three at the same time…my soul can not contain the joy!!

Let’s toast to all seasons of the life and a magnificent fall warbrobe! Clink…Clink…Clink

Until the next time…Stay Lavish

While driving along, have you ever looked to the right or left and seen arms flailing, head bobbing, and facial gestures that looked too hilarious for words? That was probably me driving along aside of you. I was singing and driver’s seat dancing (just in case you did not recognize what it was).

I LOVE to dance. Standing up, sitting down, in my office, in my head…anywhere there is music. I have danced backup for Janet Jackson and Beyonce (now, that is in my head…Hee…Hee). Dancing is a release, my form of exercise, and doing it gives me immense joy! I am free when I dance. Am I any good? I don’t know…it depends on who you ask? If you ask yours truly, I say…”Yep”

The person who fostered my love for dance was my mother. I vividly remember her dancing with my sister, brother, and me. It brings a smile to my face as I remember her grabbing my hand and we would do the Chicago slide. Our bodies would twirl and dip as her afro and my tiny ponytails would follow. Many years later, I would take my beautiful daughter’s hand and we would slide across the kitchen floor. I would teach her what my mama taught me.

This is not intentional…it was just something my entire family does. We dance! We talk loud, we laugh loud, and we dance loud. Any time we are together, insert music, dancing, and laughing until we literally pass out from happy exhaustion. We dance because we are happy…we dance because we love each other…we dance because when we had nothing or no one else…we had each other.

I am going to home state for Thanksgiving. My whole family will be there, as we are every Thanksgiving. You already know what is going to happen…we are going to cut a serious rug. And while the turkey is baking and the dressing is being mixed, I am gonna grab my mama’s hand so we can twirl and swing while everyone is looking….because she gave me the permission and the ability to truly embrace all that I am (flaws and all)!

The next time you hear a catchy tune, don’t just sit there! Flail those arms, bob that head, and dance backup for your favorite singer! Dance, get lost, and for a moment enjoy being your wonderful amazingly authentic self.