Hash It Out or Hush It Up?

Hello Lavish Ones!!!!

I am having a debate with one of my friend girls (that is my grandmother’s word for…girlfriends).  We are discussing whether it is better to “hash it out” after an argument/disagreement or to completely hush.  Friend Girl says “talking it out” is the only way to truly solve an issue plus it limits the possibility of creating a larger problem. She thinks hashing it out right then and there with no time lapse is the answer!

Of course, this would be too easy if I agreed with her.  There would be nothing to write about!

My stance is to go COMPLETELY mute (Insert Husband’s eye roll).  But that is the nature of my personality…I am an internalizer. I believe one should hush until ALL hearts and minds are clear (Southern church talk y’all…Hallelujah).  Then the pathway to clarity can begin. Cooler heads always prevail.

Amazingly, Friend Girl and I both agree one thing. The amount of passion used to resolve a conflict is dependent on how much you value the relationship and visa versa.  The desired result should not just to be proven right or seen in a positive light.

Sadly, some relationships add no value to your world and it is best to say your peace…with silence.  Let them see your lavishly detailed back as you move forward.

How you choose to settle uncomfortable situations with another is totally up to you. But…ALWAYS….do it with respect.

Are you a hasher or a husher?  Whatever you are…ALWAYS REMAIN LAVISH!

 

 

Shirt~Zara HERE // Shorts ~(OLD) White House Black Market  SIMILAR HERE or HERE  // Shoes~ Zara HERE

Hey…She is My Wife

HAPPY 2017 to ALL! Well, Christmas is gone and the new year has rolled in.  Most of us are back in the full swing of work and our days off  seem like a faint memory (all my fellow educators say a collective tired sigh). I cannot believe I am saying this but I’m excited to get back to work.   There are a number of reasons for my excitement; a major reason is my work wife. Huh…work wife..yep! You read correctly. My work spouse. Every working gal needs one!

Let’s first talk about my loved one.  She is beautiful (to the eye and in the soul).  Hilarious does not do her comical skills any justice.  My wife is smart, articulate, and a lightening fast thinker.  She is the total package (wait…we’re twins…bahahaha)!  The best part…I get to see her every work day.  Side bar…Hey wife, when are going to Sephora my concealer supply is getting low?! Back to subject at hand (You know, I often digress).

My work wife is all that I previously described, but more importantly, I trust her and she trusts me.   I know she has my best interest at heart, and I am confident that she will do anything within her power to protect me from harm.  We depend on each for a number of things: laughs, snacks, pain reliever…all the essential items for a successful work day.  Just as in a traditional marriage, we have inside jokes and code words. And when an insanely eventful occurrence happens at work, she is the first person I seek out…an added plus is  that I don’t have to build the backstory of the event.  She works there, so she knows all about it! My Mrs. can be (and has been) brutally honest with me. We all need that sometimes…I know I do!

To show my appreciation for who she is, I wore her favorite color in these photos (you’re welcome, girl).

I am not sure of the exact moment that I knew she was the “work” one for me.  I suppose it was the trials, celebrations, and stress of having a job.  Just as in any relationship, we began with light witty conversation, then we moved to asking, respecting, and caring about each other’s thoughts and opinions, finally we took our “workmance” outside the confines of our career. Now,  our colleagues know we are as thick as thieves and down like four flat tires.  It is so comforting to know someone has your back and is unafraid to demonstrate it.  There is no denying…she is the one for me!

Lavish lovelies, you may have a work wife and not even realize it. If you do not; find one quickly.  This girl could be the key to your sanity and salvation.  A happy marriage makes for a wonderful home life, so why wouldn’t same thing apply your work life?! Now, pardon me as prepare to moan, groan, and complain about work to the one who makes it so much better.

Have a great week and as always remain Lavish!

 

 

Blouse~ H&M GET HERE || Jeans ~ (OLD) Whitehouse Blackmarket SIMILAR HERE or HERE  || Shoes ~ (OLD)

Clutch (OLD) Louis Vuitton GET HERE or HERE

 

Lavishly Antiquing…

Antiquing was never considered to be my idea of a fun day.  Who wants to get old dust on new clothes?? You know who is not raising her hand!   But… hmmm…I thought to myself…this blog is about living this life of my through different lenses, so why not give antiquing a try.

I discovered there is a massive amount of history hidden amongst the dust.  There were some items that really peaked my curiosity and some that I had no clue on how or why they exist.  Things that garnered my attention and the things that were just “ehh” had one major factor in common.  Both were expensive!!  So as you can image, I navigated VERY slowly and carefully throughout the store.  I could just envision my new drool worthy winter boots not joining the closet family if I tipped over a priceless tea cup.  No…I am okay without the tea cup.

I have been told to be considered antique an item has to be at least 100 years old…well, I am half way there!

Blouse -White House|Black Market, Here Denim Bermuda Shorts-White House|Black Market Here,   Sandals-Coach Catherine Patent(old) Similar Here and Here,  Clutch-DSW Here

Fedora-Banana Republic (old) Similar Here and Here

 

Muscles and Mascara

I love going to the gym. There is so much to do there…meet up to laugh with girlfriends, share the latest family news, love life updates and oh yeah… workout.  I did not develop this love until I was in my 40s.  As a matter of fact, I would have much rather walked on a bed of nails than to be found in a gym.  The fitness equipment looked like a form of torture and who would wants to indulge in self torture…not I!  Thank the heavens my outlook changed.

I was out strolling through the mall one day and I ran upon this wonderful little tee.  Muscles and Mascara…that is me (minus the muscles).  I aspire to have muscles where my fat is hanging on for dear life.  This is one of the reasons I keep going to the gym.  I have faith that one day after a body pump session and an hour shaking it at Zumba I will awake perfectly toned and bikini ready.  Until then, I will continue to enjoy the laughs, family news, and love life updates.

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Tee Shirt-Versona Here, Jeans-WhitehouseBlackmarket Similar Here and Here  ,Shoes -Steven Madden Here and Similar Here Sunglasses-Chanel (old) Similar Here and Here, Tote-Louis Vuitton (gifted) Seen Here,

Watch-Michael Kors (gifted) Similar Here, Hat-Banana Republic (old) Similar Here and Here

 

 

What an amazing day to begin a blog!

I am beginning this journey(my blog) to celebrate the ending of my 40s and entrance of my 50s. When I was much younger, I often thought this chapter in my life would be filled with doctor’s appointments, denture cream, sensible shoes, and frequent naps (do not misunderstand, I LOVE a nap). Instead of preparing myself for the nursing home, I made the choice to tread territories that I never thought were possible. So I decided to put on one of my favorite dresses, grab a pair of heels, and get all dolled up to get this new lease on life started.
My life thus far has been a rich, bountiful, blessed, luxurious, beautiful race and at this juncture I have decided to sit, relax and savor my world by living it at my own pace… one glorious and glamorous minute at a time. Hence the name of my blog, Lavish Cafe.
Thank you for joining my journey!

 

 

 

 

 

Dress-White House|Black Market Here, Shoes-Zara Here, Clutch-Vintage Louis Vuitton (old) Similar Here, and Here Sunglasses-Dolce and Gabbana Here and Here
Photos-Evon Webster of 2Hyype Productions